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A couple of years ago I created my first PDF workbook to help you find your passion.

It all started because I was lost and confused. When it came to career advice I was told, “Do what you love, and you’ll never have to work again a day in your life.”

While the advice left me feeling hopeful and inspired, it also left me feeling clueless. I asked myself, “How do I know what I love?”

The day I decided I would find out my passion, and turn it into a career – I made a mental note that everything I did to help get me a mini ah-ha moment, I would we record and someday share it with the world. Of course back then I didn’t know exactly how I would share it, but that eventually I would.

I had wished there was a “How to discover your passion test” out there in the world that I could have discovered when I was 18 years old! The good thing is, now there is. For instance, you can take a “How do I find my passion test” here.

You can also download my free Passion 101 workbook here too! You’ll find various assignments to help you discover your passion. In the video below I share a section of an assignment that focuses on the important role that enemies and strangers play when finding your passion…and true purpose in life.

After completing the full assignment, you should be able to:

  • Explain the importance of outside feedback
  • Identify your unique features
  • Identify your current knowledge and skills
  • Compile a list of careers in alignment with your talents and skills

(Keep in mind, this blog and video only focuses on a fraction of this assignment).

Before you watch the video, it is important to note that this assignment is not about what you enjoy, but more about the gifts that you have. (enjoyment is in other lessons)

…but you can keep reading below if your preference is to read 🙂


This is a reflection based assignment where you look to four groups of people for feedback:  strangers, enemies, friends, and family.  The reason feedback of others is important is because often times when we evaluate ourselves, we get wrong.

You can watch an example of what I mean by getting it “wrong” (or maybe the better word choice is misconstrued), by watching this video that Dove published a few years ago.

Another example is American Idol. Clearly some performers were put on the show for entertainment purposes, but you the viewer, knew some people on the show were not as talented as they thought.

Benefits of strangers

Most the time strangers having nothing to gain or lose. When a stranger approaches you, most of the time they are going to you because they are drawn to you, or notice something about you that they want to praise you on or maybe you do or did something that they want to get more information about.

Whatever the reason strangers approach you for, it tells you more about the gift(s) you have.

Benefits of enemies

This one is my favorites because, at least now, I haven’t seen anyone else who teaches you how to find your passion and true purpose in life that explains how enemies are more resourceful than a nuisance.

Either they want what you have, they don’t like that you have it, or it can simply be the mere fact that they are giving “it” attention. For instance, by “it” I mean, they tease you about a quality or trait; maybe some people are afraid or intimidated by what you have or the way you are.

There are two movies that demonstrate how stranger and enemies tell you more about your passion and purpose than anything else (summary of movies will be provided in the link below)

The Blindside and LaBamba

What you learn in the Blindside…

Well, there is a lot you can take away from this movie, but we are specifically focusing in on one thing: physical traits or character attributes.

The way people looked at Michael when he walked by, or when he walked into class – the way his mother said “He’s a runner” like it’s a bad thing and a neighborhood frenemy teasing him about living on the nice side of town now and tells him, “I’ll bust a cap in your fat a$$.”

Yet at the end of the day, what he had was given attention (at first) in a negative way, but it was those characteristics and traits that contributed to him playing in the NFL; he couldn’t have become what he did without what he had (or has).

What you learn from LaBamba..

Sixteen-year-old Ritch Valens was an upcoming singer/songwriter from Pacoima who died in an airplane crash.

Before his acclaim to fame, he auditioned for a local band to play at neighborhood parties. The current lead singer of the band quickly expressed dislike of Ritchie. If it was not for the other members of the band, Ritchie would not have been a part of it.

During his short time in the band, you can see the lead singer gave Ritchie the cold shoulder, malevolent facial expressions, and made spiteful comments; there could be many more reasons for the lead singers envy, but for this example, it was because Ritchie had a true gift of singing, writing, and performing that other people could see.

Remember, this is one a fraction of this assignment. To see what enemies, strangers, friends/family, and current experience tell you about your gifts, download a free copy of my Find Your Passion 101 Workbook here!