After reading this blog, you should be able to:
• Describe what values are
• Explain how they are important when making decisions
• Identify two ways you can learn what your values are
Do you ever have those moments were your struggling – trying to pick a career?
Or feeling like “something just doesn’t feel right?”
But you can’t quite put your finger on it…
You know that on the surface everything seems like there would be nothing wrong…
Maybe you have a respectable career, you love your co-workers, you don’t have a horrible commute, you get along well with your boss, but in your mind you tell yourself, “I need guidance for my career.”
Although it’s not the answer for everything or everyone, understanding what your values are and why they are important, may help you identify the missing piece. Whether you are having internal conflicts or not, they are always a great place to look to.
If you do a general web search you will find, in a nutshell, Values are the things that are important to you in your life, and this in fact, is true. Values can be subconscious beliefs about certain topics in your life. If not understood, trying to pick a career that is not in alignment with what you value most, will make you feel uneasy or “not right.” You may know what you value instantaneously, but there is also a chance they may be deeply rooted, that you have not paid much attention to what they are.
Values develop from your upbringing – the rituals, traditions and beliefs your family practiced. Often times anything you heard, saw, or experienced regularly may have contributed to your value system. It’s also worth mentioning that once you became a certain age, you have either omitted, modified, or acquired a new set of values different from your family.
You can view the video below to hear the examples I provide on how you can identify your values, or you can continue reading
Below are two ways you can begin to identify your values:
1.The first way is to simply ask yourself what is important to you in your life and list them down on a piece of paper using a list at the link I have provided.
This is a fairly common method, but if your like me, you’ll find yourself valuing a lot and then not knowing what they mean or having to go back through and try to remember a moment where you felt like it could be one of your values.
Sometimes I think that the process of elimination will help you get there faster. The truth is, sometimes it’s easy to identify what we don’t want first so I suggest….
2.Ask yourself what annoys, or bothers you.
For example, let’s say your browsing on Instagram and you see a, we’ll call her influencer, who is saying thing there is this amazing Brazilian Banana Butter Goldie Locks serum she uses for her, and says that it’s the BEST and it’s the only one she uses! She provides you a code to use at the time of your purchase so you can get your 10% discount.
For the sake of example, now let’s say you went to her house and peeked in her shower and you see that she only uses Red Skin and Paul Mitchell and there is no sign of Brazilian Banana Butter Goldie Locks Serum.
After knowing this, do you think there is anything wrong with her advertising that that product is the best and saying it’s the only one she uses?
There is no wrong or right answer, unless it conflicts with your values.
If you feel like what she is doing isn’t right, lying IS NOT the value; it’s honestly or integrity.
If you feel that what she is doing is just business and you totes get it, then it is possible honestly is not on the top of your list for values.
In that example, you can become aware and say, “Okay, I can see how honesty is something that is important to me,” but in the next example you will be able to identify how important it is to you.
Now, what if the situation was reversed. For instance, say the Marketing Director (or whomever) DM’d you and said, “We’d love to offer you $1,000 to promote Brazilian Banana Goldie Locks Serum and provide you a sample to try out to say it’s the best or whatever great things you can say about it blah blah blah.”
Do you accept their offer knowing that VO5 hot oil treatment does the same for 3x’s as less?
If you don’t accept, why wouldn’t you accept their offer?
Whether you accept or don’t, your answer is your value.
If you say, “I accept” than honesty (or integrity) isn’t high on your hierarchy of values.
From these examples, you should be able to understand that having a sales position selling something you don’t believe in, or know the truth about, won’t feel right now matter how much everything else may appear right.
Once you determine your top 3 values, then you can start to choose career that are in alignment with what is important to you.
If you need help explore various types of careers, you can always go down to your local library and see what books they have that provide and index of careers and jobs for free. If you student, you may be able to access this information at your Career Center free of charge.
If you don’t have time to go to the library, or you’re not a student, you can always purchase a book like the one listed below, to help generate ideas for the varies types of careers that will align with your values.
Lastly, I have provided a link where you can further explore, and conduct research or various career fields.